Switched off my mind and fully enjoyed my time in Bali. I took to the sky, dancefloor, sandy shores and strong waves. The girls and I shared a room so it was much like a slumber party. Since I have no sisters and often been one of the boys, it was really nice to just be with girls. We had fun dressing up and getting dorky and doing lots of girl stuff. I’ve never really had anything like that. It felt very natural and so much fun.
I left it to the girls to shape the trip and it turned out to be lots and lots of partying. Each day was geared to look forward to the night.
Traveling with pretty blonde girls, I was much prepared to take the backseat. They did indeed get lots of attention but so did I really. In Bali you cannot walk anywhere without the locals saying things to you. The girls laughed at how often someone shouted a compliment about my hair or stopped me to admire it.
On the beach, where lots of locals set up in little groups, I was like a mini celebrity. The girls said they were supposed to be exotic but no one paid attention to them there when I was around. Different groups were calling me over to hang out with them. A man with his guitar, a surf crew, rasta boys…It was pretty fun. I liked being someplace where people really liked that I wore my hair a bit different. It’s nice to be appreciated for how I look rather than just feeling like the odd one out.
When we partied, it was mostly a Caucasian crowd and there the girls had most of the attention. But there are always those who can appreciate a girl no matter where she is from, and some who like what’s different. So every night I ended up with a boy glued to me. I must say I didn’t try at all. It just happened and that was nice.
Most nights, the girls and I danced lots and hung with this particular group of people, and then boys would come in the picture and we would go our separate ways. It’s funny because I think of them as the prettier ones but I was the one who had a guy every night.
The first night, two beers in and my tiredness was gone. I danced with an Indonesian boy for most of the night. He was kinda little and had a cute mole above his lip. I got quite a bit of attention as I lost myself in the music and fellas tried to weasel in and cut him off. I stuck with him. Later I realised I’d been buying his drinks. I asked and he blatantly said he had no money nor any intention to buy me anything. So I decided he didn’t deserve to have the shot I had bought him. I raised glasses with the random group next to me so I wouldn’t have to do a shot alone, and ended up conversing lengthily with a nice English guy. Apparently, the Indonesian guy who stood quietly next to me throughout this time refusing to get into the conversation, signaled threats to the English guy. Classy! The girls had each met guys too, so a quick chat and I left with the English guy.
Here comes the crazy bit that you live for as a traveller. I learnt later that the Indonesian guy was mad jealous. He followed us out the club, was upset that I left with someone else, punched my friend’s date out of nowhere giving him a black eye (?!), and actually followed us down the street some to see where I lived. !!!
He had a sort of ‘confrontation’ with me when he saw me another night, calling the English guy ‘the asshole that I left with’ and said he’d seen us go all the way down one street so he had some idea where I lived. I was surprised and very creeped out that he followed us. I told him I knew he’d punched the other guy and that was really really not cool, and walked away. He left me alone then.
The English guy and I had a lot of fun and he was off on a plane home the next day.
The next few nights were similar. I was up all night with a boy, had a wink of sleep, went about the day hungover, and got ready to party again.
One day we spent entirely on the beach and that day EVERYTHING felt okay. The moment was perfect. I counted my blessings. Not everyone gets to experience such beauty, not everyone gets holidays, not everyone gets to party and spend their money on things they don’t actually need. I had my friends, I had this beach, I had all these friendly souls around, I had a job back home and healthy family. I didn’t have a man but it was okay.
Another day we went parasailing and went to temples.
The rest of the days were spent getting ready to party 🙂
I knew that if I didn’t set my rules before i went to Bali, I would end up going quite far with the boys. If I have a limit in my head, I will stick to it no matter how drunk. But I couldn’t decide beforehand. Once I got to Bali though I didn’t have time to assess anything, the party started from the moment I got there. So I just did.
There is a downside to this story but I will keep to the excitement for now.
Side note: First e-mail from Rai in 3 weeks today. Just a simple how are you. No reply yet so nothing else to report.